Smart Money Podcast — Budget Like a Boss: How to Drive Down Debt and Park Money in Savings (Video Episode)

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Join a financial planning session with a listener who receives guidance on achieving multiple goals, including debt payoff and maximizing savings.How can you balance multiple financial goals like debt repayment, retirement savings, and major purchases? How can you manage finances in an expensive city while supporting dependents? Recording in-person from a studio in Los Angeles, host Sean Pyles sits down with Magda Doemeny, a certified financial planner with NerdWallet Advisors, to host an actual financial planning session with a listener. Jessica, a 48 year old living in Los Angeles, receives personalized financial advice around navigating competing financial goals, receiving tips and tricks on prioritizing high-interest debt, breaking down financial goals into manageable steps, and maintaining focus on financial stability. Magda and Sean also discuss maximizing high-yield savings accounts, meticulous expense tracking, leveraging additional income streams like side gigs, and other tactics for achieving financial goals.

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Sean Pyles:

Welcome to NerdWallet's Smart Money Podcast where you send us your money questions, and we answer them with the help of our genius Nerds. I'm Sean Pyles. This episode, we're bringing you another financial planning session between a listener and an advisor from the NerdWallet Advisor's platform. Our goal this time is to help a listener sort out competing financial goals, like paying off debt, buying a car, and saving for retirement. We're coming to you from a studio in Los Angeles where our listener lives.

But before we get into that, I'd like to bring back Magda Doemeny. She's a certified financial planner from the NerdWallet Advisors platform. One thing I want to be clear about is that Magda and NerdWallet advisors are a distinct platform from NerdWallet. Magda will give some advice to our listener to help them improve their finances, and that advice will be given on behalf of NerdWallet Advisors, not NerdWallet. Also, in exchange for coming on this episode, our listener is receiving a free one-year membership to the NerdWallet Advisors platform. Magda, welcome back to Smart Money.

Magda Doemeny:

Thanks, Sean.

Sean Pyles:

So Magda, we've talked with you before, but give us a refresher on who you are and what NerdWallet Advisors is.

Magda Doemeny:

Sure. I'm an advisor with the NerdWallet Advisors platform, and what we offer is affordable financial planning memberships that give you access to a certified financial planner like me for a low monthly cost. And what we'll do with that is we will do a review of your finances and create a financial plan with some bite-size action items for you. And we'll check in periodically throughout the year, but you really have unlimited access to me via scheduling a call or sending us a message.

Sean Pyles:

All right. Well, Magda, we know that managing money can be really intimidating to some people, and that can lead them to disengage from their finances entirely. How do you think people can reclaim their agency and make the most of their money, even if they do feel kind of scared of it?

Magda Doemeny:

I do think it can be overwhelming to jump in and try and sort through your finances if you feel as though there's a lot you have to tackle. But I think the best way to combat that is to break it up into smaller pieces. I mentioned bite-sized action items. So really figuring out what the things are that you want to tackle and look at your highest priority one first and then moving on to the next one.

Sean Pyles:

And that can make your goals more tangible, easier to accomplish one piece at a time.

Magda Doemeny:

Exactly. So if somebody is saying they have a lot of debt, but they also want to save for retirement and maybe save for a trip or something like that, your first step is maybe talking to somebody like me, and we'll look at those and say, well, the highest priority item would be your high-interest debt. And so let's take a look at that before we prioritize the other items on your list. And with that, we would say, okay, let's take a look at your expenses so we can see where we might be able to squeeze out some extra dollars to pay down this debt, or let's take some cash and pay this down. And then once we tackle the beginning steps of that process, then we can build in something else, and it just makes it a little bit easier to do it one step at a time.

Sean Pyles:

Okay. All right, well, let's get to some financial advising in a moment, our conversation with a listener here in Los Angeles. Stay with us. Okay, let's get to the guest star for this episode. Jessica is a listener who is 48 years old and lives in Los Angeles. She's with us now in the studio. Jessica, welcome to Smart Money.

Jessica:

Thank you for having me.

Sean Pyles:

We're really delighted that you're joining us today. So to start, tell us a bit about yourself. What do you do for work, what do you do for fun, any passions that you have?

Jessica:

Well, I'm born and raised in Hollywood, California. I work in interior design. I work for interior designers. I'm not an interior designer, so basically, I'm execution. So they pick colors and designs, and then I make it happen. I've been doing that for 20 years.

Sean Pyles:

So how would you describe your financial situation right now? Does it feel stable? Does it feel difficult?

Jessica:

At the beginning of this year, I took a really strong hold on my finances, and I watched them. So right at this moment, I feel okay. I feel like I'm barely making it. I'm just covering the expenses. I can't get further than that.

Sean Pyles:

When you say you took a hold, does that mean you were really paying attention to everything?

Jessica:

I was really paying attention.

Sean Pyles:

And you weren't previously before the beginning of this year?

Jessica:

I mean, to some degree, yes, in order to get my rent paid. So, of course, I had to watch it, but I wasn't really worried about those Uber Eats bills.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah. So did something inspire you to get more disciplined about your finances, or was it just the beginning of the new year and you had a resolution?

Jessica:

Well, I had a car a couple of years ago, and then I lost the car because it was going to cost too much to fix, and I couldn't get the stickers. And now it's been almost two years, and I'm like, "I’ve got to get it together."

Sean Pyles:

It's hard not to have a car in Los Angeles.

Jessica:

Yep. So I'm like, when am I going to get it together? How long is this going to go on? So this year, I was like, okay, I got to figure out a plan. But six months in, I've been looking at all the details, and I'm like, I just don't know how this is going to happen. Just with all the other pressures of my debt, with 401(k) and retirement planning, it's like I just don't know what direction I should be going or how I'm going to make it all work.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah, and you wrote to us about some competing financial goals that you just listed. You need a car, you want to save for retirement, you have some debt that you want to pay down. Can you talk us through your goals?

Jessica:

I first want to get a car, then I want to pay off my debt, and then I want to work on retirement because I'm not going to be happy at the bus stop just focusing on debt for another three years.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah, yeah, that's fair.

Jessica:

So I feel like that's why I need a car first.

Sean Pyles:

Okay. So let's talk about some financial anxiety that you might have. You mentioned that you have some concerns. So what is your greatest concern right now? Is it the debt that you have? Is it the retirement that you're going to be funding eventually?

Jessica:

Probably the debt that I have, it's looming over me.

Sean Pyles:

And this is credit card debt?

Jessica:

Credit card debt.

Sean Pyles:

Okay. And how much do you have?

Jessica:

It's about $20, $22K, which doesn't sound like a lot, but it's a lot to me.

Sean Pyles:

And how did you accumulate this debt?

Jessica:

That's a good question. Doing life.

Sean Pyles:

The Uber Eats or did you have an event that triggered going into debt?

Jessica:

I don't have a good excuse of why. It just ended up that one day-

Sean Pyles:

Sometimes that happens.

Jessica:

And then I lost the car and then I was like, I'm not paying anything until I can figure that out. And then American Express sued me.

Sean Pyles:

So you have collections accounts?

Jessica:

Yep.

Sean Pyles:

Okay.

Jessica:

Most of them all are in collection except American Express. I've worked out a deal with them, so I pay them monthly.

Sean Pyles:

Got it, all right. And let's talk about how you manage your finances on a regular basis. Do you use a budgeting app? Are you more one for a spreadsheet? Does it all live inside of your head?

Jessica:

Spreadsheet, Excel. I learned how to do pivot tables and that was the most amazing thing that-

Sean Pyles:

Nice

Jessica:

I could have learned to do.

Sean Pyles:

So you have a fairly complicated spreadsheet, then?

Jessica:

Yes, I put everything on my debit card and then I have specific categories and within those categories I have subcategories so I can tell you exactly how much I spent at Trader Joe's this month or exactly how much I spent on Uber Eats or so forth.

Sean Pyles:

And is this spreadsheet a new thing as of this year or have you had that-

Jessica:

This year.

Sean Pyles:

Okay. And it's been working for you?

Jessica:

I like it. I feel much more in control.

Sean Pyles:

Okay, because that can be the hard part is finding a tool or a system that you can continue to use long-term and you don't just stop using it after a month or so because it's not quite right for your style.

Jessica:

Well, I looked at other budgeting tips online and I used those, but I made one that worked specifically for me. My categories are my categories that are important to me.

Sean Pyles:

All right, let's talk about savings. How do you set aside money for an emergency fund or other savings goals? Is that part of your budgeting strategy?

Jessica:

Well, at the end of last year, I got a bonus. I'm just giving you an example to explain myself. I got a bonus for my job and it was $3,000 and I was like, this is my savings. This is a car. But then life comes around and starts chipping at it and so now it's not $3,000 anymore, it's a lot less, but it was a goal, but then life. I guess you can say they're emergencies like, I lost my glasses. That's an emergency.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah.

Jessica:

So it really ends up being an emergency account slash savings account.

Sean Pyles:

But not specifically for emergencies, right? Or do you have a specified emergency savings account?

Jessica:

No, it's just one.

Sean Pyles:

Okay. Well, at NerdWallet, we are big proponents of high-yield savings accounts. You can shop around, we have roundups that are updated monthly and I recommend looking into that because you can get a better yield on your savings than just a brick and mortar account from a traditional bank. Those banks typically will give you less than 1% on your savings. A high-yield savings account can give you upward of 4% right now, so a lot more for your money that's just sitting there and so it's helping you grow your savings as it's built out.

Jessica:

Sounds good.

Sean Pyles:

Okay, great. So I want to turn a little more to retirement savings. You mentioned that you have around $20K. is that right? So what's your current saving strategy? Are you putting aside a percent in a 401(k), or do you have an IRA?

Jessica:

I put $100 in each check to my 401(k).

Sean Pyles:

Okay. Do you know what percent that is from your paycheck?

Jessica:

I don't.

Sean Pyles:

Okay.

Madga Doemeny:

I think it's around four.

Sean Pyles:

Okay, great. Well, Jessica, I know you two have been sitting next to each other for a little bit now, but I want to bring in Magda, so Magda, Jessica, Jessica, Magda.

Madga Doemeny:

Hello.

Jessica:

Nice to meet you.

Sean Pyles:

Magda. I'm curious about your initial thoughts based on what we've been talking about so far with Jessica. Anything stand out to you?

Madga Doemeny:

I think in kind of conjunction with what you were talking about and then also some of the information that you sent me, I think ultimately we talked about this, but Los Angeles is a very expensive city. I think something that didn't come up is that I think your daughter lives with you. Is that right?

Jessica:

Yes.

Madga Doemeny:

That means that together, you're not just supporting yourself, you're also supporting another person, if not partially. And so it's really important to figure out if your current income can support the cost of living in a city like this. Because I like to tell, there is a floor of how much money you can spend on yourself. You can't literally sit in your home, only go to the grocery store, only get your toiletries and sit and do nothing. For your own mental health, we need to find a way for you to experience life.

So looking at how much you bring in and how much you spend, I do think we're going to have to go through it very closely to find areas that we can squeeze some money out, because the first thing that you've done that a lot of folks haven't done is create a great spreadsheet and look at every dollar that's come in and come out. Do you find that in this, when you were reviewing it, it in some cases empowered you to spend more because you found that you were cutting back in so many areas that you said, let me maybe spend a little bit more in another area?

Jessica:

As far as household needs, I organized it better where I feel like I'm spending a little bit more, but in the long run I'm not, because I'm planning a little bit better on those detergents and paper towels and so forth.

Madga Doemeny:

Yeah, because I found in going through this and so everybody has the context, I'm looking at just about six months worth of expenses and when you look at it, you don't net negative every month, but on a whole you're running about $240 net negative. And one thing you mentioned that I actually suggest for a lot of folks is putting everything on your debit card. Why do you do that?

Jessica:

So I can record it.

Madga Doemeny:

Yeah, and so that you don't maybe add to your credit cards as much as you can.

Jessica:

Yeah, I don't have any credit cards.

Madga Doemeny:

And so my question is for the months that we're running net negative, where is that money coming from?

Jessica:

That's the savings account that I had. I'm pulling it out of there.

Madga Doemeny:

And so how much do you have in savings right now?

Jessica:

I probably have about $2,000.

Madga Doemeny:

Okay, got it. And so how are you funding that? Are you putting a little bit in every month?

Jessica:

Usually when my check comes I put as much as I can in there just blindly and I'm like, okay, I'll just try to run with this and then as the month goes on I'll move money back and forth.

Madga Doemeny:

Okay, got it. Which is great. I mean, ultimately having the savings account and having the ability to move some over, we obviously don't want you to run net negative from that. We don't want to have any payments that are paid if you are, what's the word I'm looking for? If you overdraft, we don't want you to have any overdraft fees or anything like that. However, I would say if you are looking at this spreadsheet that you had sent through and I think you had mentioned the things you like to do for fun are go out, maybe Uber Eats, or just go out to eat with friends, tickets, concerts, things like that. And I do think there might be a way that we can tighten that up a little bit without taking away too much of the fun as well as I noticed you have a side gig of some kind. Can you tell me about that and the consistency of making additional revenue outside of your main job?

Jessica:

It's a great side gig is I work from home creating invoices for a friend of mine, so it's basically on my time and I get $500 a month from that and it's really on my clock, so that helps.

Madga Doemeny:

Is there a way to do that, because I noticed it's either it's not every month or maybe you do twice in one month or something. Is there a way to make that either more consistent or also increase above the $500 a month? Is there a way to bring in any additional income?

Jessica:

From that particular job, no, it's pretty much going to be $500. I could be more consistent if I'm just more consistent.

Madga Doemeny:

Okay. And I think it's important because while your income is great for most of the country, this is one of the most expensive cities and so I think in order to support not just your lifestyle but a lifestyle here, especially while you're still supporting a little bit towards your daughter, we might want to find a way to not only increase the consistency of this side gig but also find out if there's another way to bring in more money. And at your current job are raises a regular part of the process?

Jessica:

I don't see any raises.

Madga Doemeny:

Do they give you raises?

Jessica:

I got, what's the raise they give for-

Sean Pyles:

Cost of living.

Jessica:

Cost of living raise recently.

Sean Pyles:

So what's your current salary, Jessica?

Jessica:

$74,800.

Sean Pyles:

Okay. Yeah, if you're living in somewhere in the Midwest, that might be a really great salary. In Los Angeles, it'd be a little bit harder. And you mentioned that you're supporting your daughter. How old is your daughter?

Jessica:

She's 21.

Sean Pyles:

Okay.

Jessica:

I support her, but I don't support all her fun stuff.

Sean Pyles:

But food-

Jessica:

I pay the phone, the Netflix, the lights, the rent, and she's in college so there are expenses that come out of my savings. Like all of a sudden she'll need $400 for some school thing. So then it's like, okay, well here you go.

Sean Pyles:

Do you talk with your daughter about household finances or do you-

Jessica:

Yes, when I created this spreadsheet she has her own column and then within the month we go out to eat and she's like, "Don't put that in my column." So she knows.

Sean Pyles:

Okay.

Jessica:

She's very aware.

Sean Pyles:

Do you feel comfortable bouncing ideas off of her when you're saying or thinking, oh, I'm kind of having a hard time getting a grip on my financial goals and my debt or do you keep that more separate?

Jessica:

She's pretty aware of everything that goes on.

Madga Doemeny:

Does she-

Jessica:

Yeah, we talk a lot.

Madga Doemeny:

I know she's in college, but does she work? Does she have the ability to get a job?

Jessica:

She works a little bit.

Madga Doemeny:

Okay. Is she able to support, I mean, she's living with you, so that's a huge savings on her part, but something I want to have you also think about is one, when we look at a parent and a child dynamic, it's always more important to focus on you as the parent than on the child, because you have anywhere from 20 to 30, 40 years or they have 20, 30, 40 years extra to figure it out. And so by you ultimately taking on debt or not being able to save to support her, it's not necessarily doing her any damage if you didn't do that, because even if she did have to accumulate some debt, she has 20 or 30 more years to pay that down than you do. At some point you do have to retire potentially or trim back the amount of work that you're doing and it's going to be a lot sooner than her and hopefully after school she'll get a job and she'll be able to pay for her expenses.

Sean Pyles:

It's also a good opportunity for you two to learn and grow together. I want to get into some specific recommendations, Magda, that you would have for Jessica and I want to start by talking about Jessica's credit card debt. So Jessica, if you can, can you just list some of your debts or all of them if they come to mind about what type they are, what the balances are and how you're paying off your debt if you have a specific strategy that you're deploying currently.

Jessica:

Okay. Well, I have two cards with American Express and that I'm paying about $500 a month.

Sean Pyles:

For each or both total?

Jessica:

Total. And they're the only ones that get paid right now.

Sean Pyles:

And that's because of your settlement, your agreement with AmEx?

Jessica:

Yes. And the other ones have gone to creditors. The credit company, Bank of America sold it to somebody else.

Sean Pyles:

Third party debt collector.

Jessica:

And I'm not paying any of those yet, because I haven't figured out how to yet.

Madga Doemeny:

Did they send you a notice that says this is the amount?

Jessica:

Yes, they send me emails and notices and they're like, "If you just pay this, we can call it even." I'm like, "No, I'm not there yet."

Madga Doemeny:

Got it. How much of the debt, of the $22,000, how much of it is for the AmEx cards?

Jessica:

Probably $10,000.

Madga Doemeny:

$10,000, okay. So then another call it $12,000 is for the collections?

Jessica:

$4,000 Bank of America. CareCredit for, that's like medical, that's another five grand. Another creditor is the remaining.

Madga Doemeny:

Okay.

Sean Pyles:

And those are all in collections currently?

Jessica:

Yes.

Sean Pyles:

Have you looked into strategies for resolving collections accounts?

Jessica:

Well, I mentioned I was on something called Money Management International.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah, a debt management plan?

Jessica:

Which was great and I did pay all my debts.

Sean Pyles:

And that was just credit card debt?

Jessica:

It was just credit card debts. And then I was clean, then the pandemic happened and it's just a lot of money. I went back into debt and then I did money management, but then I lost my car and then I was just mad at everything and I was like, I'm not paying anybody anything. And so then I got kicked off the money management plan for the second time.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah, because debt management plans from credit counseling agencies, they're pretty strict with missed payments. If you miss one, they can kick you off.

Madga Doemeny:

And I know one of your big items that you want to do is get a car and having these not resolved is probably going to make it more challenging to get a loan to get the car. Where's your credit score right now? Do you know?

Jessica:

It's a 668.

Madga Doemeny:

Okay. And so having the higher your credit score, obviously the better the rate that you'll get and so we would want to try and prioritize as much as we can, getting rid of these debts.

Sean Pyles:

So I'd like to hear how you think Jessica could make a plan to get to a place where she can buy a car or save more for retirement because that's going to be a big priority with time horizons. A little shorter for Jessica, as you mentioned, than her daughter for example. So what do you think would be a good way to maybe work on that credit score, save some money for a down payment on a car? Where can she begin?

Madga Doemeny:

I do think the first thing that we'd want to do is take a look at any other places we can shave off some money and I think you can be honest with yourself as well to decide is there a way we can trim down the number of dining outs we go to? And I like to, instead of using a dollar amount, similar to what you said, only one Starbucks every other week, very similar strategy. That is a much more reasonable way to think about budgeting, which is maybe you only go out with your friends once a week or once every other week depending on where we're at with the numbers you have.

So finding some very short-term goals to rein in at least a couple hundred dollars a month from some of the spending, which I think we might have a little bit of room in there, but also figuring out if maybe we could even split the bills with your daughter. So instead of going from $400 a month on average that you're spending, can we do $200 a month? And now all of a sudden we have $400 a month that we could work with. I think we're going to have to start really small, because it's tight. I also would love to spend a little bit more time figuring out how we can increase your income in any capacity, whether it's working more with the side gig you have now more consistently or finding an additional one. We can look together to see if there's anything in your wheelhouse based on your expertise.

Sean Pyles:

Jessica, how long have you been at this current job for?

Jessica:

10 years.

Sean Pyles:

10 years with the same employer. So I imagine they're kind of like family?

Jessica:

Yes.

Sean Pyles:

You feel close to them. It's hard because I'm thinking you could maybe go to another employer, you might be able to get a raise, but it's hard to leave that emotional connection that you have with them. Have you thought about this at all?

Jessica:

No. I love my job. I love who I work with. At the end of the day, my sanity is important-

Sean Pyles:

Yeah and it's nice to be able to walk in-

Jessica:

And I'm sure I could make a lot more money somewhere else, but it's close to home.

Sean Pyles:

Then do you think you could talk with them and say, hey, I would love to make this amount more?

Jessica:

I'm sure I could have a conversation.

Madga Doemeny:

This is actually the harder path to go down is to figure out how to increase your income. It is a challenge, but it's something that could be permanent in increasing your income. So I do want to spend all the energy that you put into this spreadsheet, we should take some of that energy temporarily and shift it into seeing if there's a way to make more money, whether it's in your industry or outside of that, because I do want to get to a place right now, what we want to prioritize is building up your savings account and paying down your debt. Your savings account we’ll hopefully use somewhat to get you your car.

Sean Pyles:

It's a lot to juggle and that's why it's helpful to check in with someone like Magda. I mean, you have this year membership with her, so you'll be talking regularly. You're not doing it alone. That's helpful. You also have your daughter's partnership. She can be a sounding board in this. I'm glad that you guys have each other through this too.

Jessica:

Tell me more about the emergency fund. I'm not even really familiar with that, what that means, what that's supposed to look like.

Madga Doemeny:

So an emergency fund is intended to be, really, it's supposed to be if you were to lose your job, because if you lost your job, you could get a little bit potentially from unemployment, but that is usually not enough to cover your rent, let alone your other living expenses. And so for a single income household, which would be yours, we would want you to have six months worth of your expenses in cash at any given time. So that's something that we would want to work towards. It could be a big number and it can seem really intimidating, but at the start of it, we're looking for maybe $1,000 in savings, which you have too, which is great. Once we get a thousand dollars, then we can start to peel some of your extra money that you may have each month and split it between your emergency fund and your debt.

And once we get to a healthier amount on the emergency fund, we don't have to fund it all the way, then we would want to make sure we're also chipping in some retirement along the way. You don't have to have your debt paid down to zero in order to contribute to retirement, absolutely not. But we want to make sure that anything that's costing you a lot of money, we want to be able to put your dollars towards that so we can get rid of it and move on. And if you're not adding to your debt already, that's a really good first step. So we're moving away from that, but we do need to find a way to trim back. And yes, we would just want to contribute a little bit towards your emergency fund every month.

Jessica:

And how best to hold the emergency fund? Would that be held in a high yield savings account?

Madga Doemeny:

Exactly, exactly. So you would have your standard checking account and then you could have a standard savings account, but you wouldn't really necessarily need to use that. The high-yield savings account, you can link them directly to your checking account and have it move within one to two business days.

Jessica:

And the emergency fund would be over there. Don't look at it.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah, I was just going to say, psychologically that's a nice benefit because you're not as able to pull from it instantaneously, whether if it's at the same bank that you have your checking at. Well, Jessica, I'd love to hear how you're maybe thinking differently about your situation and what you want to do with your money.

Jessica:

You mean differently from our conversation right here?

Sean Pyles:

Based on what we've been talking about, yeah.

Jessica:

How I'm feeling about it. Well, I feel a little bit more empowered. I’ve just got to do the work. I do like your ideas. I don't feel overwhelmed.

Sean Pyles:

That's good. And like I said, this is just your first conversation with Magda. You'll be talking more.

Jessica:

It feels doable. That's the word, doable.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah. Well, that's great to hear. The hard part-.

Jessica:

I’ve just got to do it.

Sean Pyles:

Yeah.

Madga Doemeny:

But you've already put in so much work. You should be proud of yourself. A lot of people do exactly what you do, which is new year, new me, and then February comes along and I don't know where that new person is, but it's not here. And you've been doing it consistently and the data just alone, I mean, I don't think people recognize that my ability to even point out something like the dollar amount, you're negative, and the fact that we can even right now identify where we might be spending a little too much, is something most people don't have.

And all we're doing is talking generally about things that you might be able to do. We have real concrete things, because of the work you've put in and a lot of people don't even do that. So that is super exciting. And if you can take that into some next steps, which I know it's even harder to say, "I can't go out tonight because I'm trying to save." But that energy can become more habitual and you can still be excited about the times when you can spend your money, we'll just do it in a more structured way.

Sean Pyles:

Great. Well, Magda, I'd like to hear what lessons do you think our listeners can take from Jessica's situation or this conversation more broadly?

Madga Doemeny:

I think it's really important to understand the cost of your living in general and balance it between happiness of work, happiness of location, but also understand what you're trying to accomplish and finding ways to make sure that you're not taking on everything for everyone, like your daughter. You really in financial situations need to put you and maybe your partner, anyone who's kind of your age first because of the time that you need to get there. And I think for you, if we do want a car and if folks are looking to actually accomplish something like buy a car or retire, that needs to be what drives your energy to say yes or no to something. Because every time you are saying yes to something today, you just have to recognize that that is potentially keeping you in the same position you're trying to get out of.

And so if somebody is saying, "I like my job so much, I would never want to give this up." Then we need to find a way to live within that paycheck. And if we can't do that, then we need to come to the realization that we do need to find a new job, otherwise we change the lifestyle so that we can accomplish the goals that we are trying to set forward. One of the two things needs to be true, and I think that is the hardest part of this process, is trying to maintain your mental health and insanity while also accomplishing your goals and making sure that those two things are lined up. Hopefully we can figure out what the true north is in terms of what we really want to accomplish and if those things are more important than finding other ways to make money, and that's something that we should dive deeper into.

Jessica:

I like it.

Sean Pyles:

Feeling ready, Jessica?

Jessica:

I'm ready. Let's do it.

Sean Pyles:

Well, thank you so much for coming on Smart Money and talking with us.

Jessica:

Thank you for having me. I appreciate it.

Sean Pyles:

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